We all have those days: Your car won't start, you spill coffee on your shirt, or you get a call from Uncle Sal, who wants to chat even though you're already running late. But by the time you walk through the office doors, you're usually able to focus on the day ahead and leave any personal tribulations temporarily behind.
Sometimes, however, what happens outside of work makes it challenging to be a model of professionalism on the job. Whether it's dealing with a death in the family, divorce or prolonged illness, your ability to focus and interact with others can be impaired. Following are some tactics you can use to help manage during tough personal times.
Take time. Certain events shake you to your core, and even though going back to work may provide a distraction, you probably won't be on your "A" game. You might, for example, have trouble concentrating or overreact to things that are usually all in a day's work. The best way to regroup may be to take some time off, either by using personal days or taking advantage of your company's extended leave policy.
Get the word out. Everyone reacts to personal ordeals in different ways, but it's not uncommon to be overcome with emotion when you least expect it. Make it easier for yourself -- and your colleagues -- by being upfront about your situation. You don't have to offer details; just let people know that you are having difficulties in your personal life. If you're uncomfortable telling colleagues directly, ask your manager or a coworker to let others know the basic circumstances on your behalf.
Remember, awkwardness is the norm. Some of your colleagues will be hesitant to speak to you, and others will want to talk more often than you'd prefer. If you don't want to discuss what's going on, politely let curious coworkers know when they bring up the subject. Your own reactions might be off as well. If you are brusque with your colleague or miss a deadline, apologize and do what you can to rectify the situation.
Know what you need. After a calamitous event, some people want to take on more work, and others need a lighter schedule. Speak to your manager to see what accommodations can be made to allow you time to recover. Also, don't be afraid to ask your colleagues for help. Letting them cover for you on a project for a few weeks isn't nearly as damaging to your career as submitting sub-par work. Most people will be happy to help you out if you're going through a challenging personal time.
You may want to get back to normal as soon as possible after a distressing event. But keep in mind that tending to your needs -- whether by taking time off or adjusting your workload -- and allowing yourself time to recover are the best ways to get both your professional and personal lives back on track.
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