Big mistake - Is it too late?

Has your dream job become the job from hell? Sometimes what may seem a great job can easily turn sour and your expectations of what the role would be like don’t match the reality. You are not alone - many workers regret taking a new position within the first few weeks of their tenure.

So what can you do about it and how can you avoid the same problem from happening again?

The first thing you need to do is to figure out what has gone wrong.

Before you took the job you hopefully did what did all of the necessary preparation - researched the position, talked to people performing the same job role, met with your new employer a few time prior to starting your new job. How could you have got it so wrong?

The most common reasons why new role do not work out are:

• The position and responsibilities differ from what you initially perceived
• You do not get along with your new boss
• You do not get along with your colleagues and dislike your new working environment
• The job you were hired to do is not the one you ended up with

If it’s a situation you can’t see turning itself round, the question is what should you do now?

Talk it over
It is human nature to have second thoughts and doubts within the first few weeks or months of starting a new job. However, if the feeling persists for a prolonged period of time and your feelings haven’t changed after you have discussed your concerns with your boss, then it may be time to jump ship and look for another job.

Leave before it’s too late
There is nothing to gain by staying in a position you regret taking, but there is a lot to lose in the long term. The longer you remain in your job, the less motivated, less effective and less productive you will become, which could tarnish your reputation and damage future career prospects.

If you’re still in your probation period it may be possible to leave with very little or even no notice, but this should only be done in the most extreme cases.

Self-analysis
Before you hand in your notice and start applying for a new job, take stock of your position and do some in-depth soul-searching, after all you don’t want to repeat the mistake. Why did you leave your last job? Did you want a new challenge? Do you want new skills or to change career?
Identify what your key motivating factors are and use them to form the basis of your new job search.

Explaining it away
If the hopes and aspirations that you held for your new job have been dashed, don’t dismay. The fact that you were prepared to make the change will demonstrate to future employers that you are someone who strives to develop your career, to learn new experiences and to use your new found knowledge to greater effect in whatever role you perform.

Are You Too Sexy For Your Job?

Warning: Too much cleavage can be hazardous to your career. This past year brought us two high-profile cases involving women who were deemed too sexy for their jobs.

In the U.S., Harvard librarian Desiree Goodwin, who holds two post-graduate degrees from Cornell University, claimed that she was passed over for promotion sixteen times because of the way she dressed and her physical attractiveness. Goodwin claimed the jobs she sought were given to women with less experience and education and that a supervisor told her she was perceived as a "pretty girl" who wore "sexy outfits."

Meanwhile, on the shores of the Adriatic Sea, Caterina Bonci, a Roman Catholic religion teacher, said she was fired from her job at a state-run school for being too sexy. (The school principal said both parents and teachers complained about her short skirts and extensive cleavage.)

"In the 14 years I had this job, I have always been attacked by my female colleagues and the rest of the staff because of my attractiveness," Bonci was quoted saying in the Italian media.

"And if you consider that at our parent-teacher meetings it was always the fathers who came to see me, one can see why I have so often been at the centre of attention and a target of gossip."

Bonci failed to win her job back; Goodwin not only lost her civil law case, but also had to foot the bill for Harvard's legal costs.

Fair or not, courts around the U.S. are upholding employers' rights to ban "sexy" dressing in the workplace. Just how do the courts define "sexy?" According to Eric Matusewitch, deputy director of the New York City Equal Employment Practices Commission, the courts consider "sexy" attire to be clothing that is particularly revealing and of extreme fit, as well as excessive use of make-up.

To those who argue that this discriminates against women, Matusewitch replies, "The code applies equally to both sexes. So, if employers require men to dress conservatively, they can require women to avoid tight, flashy and revealing outfits as well."

But forget legalities. The cases of Goodwin and Bonci illustrate what career experts have always known: dressing provocatively is a sure-fire way to sabotage your credibility at the office.

"If you flaunt your figure in a professional setting, colleagues and clients may question your judgment or make unflattering assumptions about your character," warns Susan RoAne, lecturer, author and business etiquette expert, who adds that several clients have sought her advice on how to inform employees that their revealing attire detracts from the company's image.

"After all, who wants to entrust their child to a teacher who dresses as if she'd rather be clubbing or invest their money with a financial planner who looks like she should be swinging from a strippers' pole?"

With the current "skin is in" fashions and the media full of images that suggest provocative dress is acceptable – even desirable – in the workplace, how can you make sure you don't cross the line? Here are some guidelines:

Skirts: Too little is too much. Skirt lengths should be no more than one hand-width above the knee.

Tops: Make sure there is at least one-inch of room between body and fabric and that it is long enough to conceal your midriff. Stomach, breasts, back and shoulders should be covered. Fabric should not be overly thin and a bra should be worn (with no straps revealed).

Dresses: No halter tops or cleavage-baring necklines. Avoid overly snug fits. Hemlines should hit no more than one hand-width above the knee.

Trousers: Shun overly tight or hip-hugger trousers or jeans that expose the midriff. Stick with neutral colours.

Shoes: Heels should be no higher than two inches; toe should be closed. Avoid shoes with straps, bright colours and patterns.

Hair: Keep your hair sleek and off your face. Avoid the high-maintenance, over-processed look.

Make-up: Keep it clean and natural. Avoid heavy eyeliner or evening lipsticks.

"Clothing and appearance are visual shorthand," RoAne concludes. "The point is to be noticed for your business skills, not your short skirts or push-up bra.

"If you want a job, dress the part. If you want to show off your body... well, that's what your free time is for."